Q. What does ClubFem stand for?
A. FEM is an acronym meaning "Females Enslaving Males". The term "club" does not refer to a place or location but an organization of people coming together because of a mutual interest. We have been asked by some writers where the Club is located because the person asking thought it was a tavern or restaurant or night club. There may be a ClubFem somewhere but we are not aware of it.
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Q. How do I join the MD/DE/DC chapter of ClubFem?
A Membership usually starts with an email and a letter of introduction to Head Mistress Lisa. Once she receives the email from the prospective Mistress or couple, she will reply letting that person know she is in receipt of their message.
Then a phone call is arranged between Head Mistress Lisa and the prospective member. If all parties are comfortable the potential members will be sent an Evite to our next Social, receive a copy of the Constitution, and be invited to join one or both of our yahoo groups"
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Q. Is ClubFEM for couples only?
A. No. ClubFem also accepts single Dominant Women.
Auditions for submales are opened up twice a year in the spring, and again in the fall. During the in-between times, single men must be invited and attend as the guest of a current Female member of ClubFEM."
The goal of ClubFEM-MD/DE/DC is to have a balanced membership between Dominant Women and submissive men. Keep in mind that the Women are in charge at all times.
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Q. What is the age range of ClubFem members?
A. The median age of ClubFem members nationwide is about 40. We have members from age 21 to some over 60. In any case, anyone wishing membership in ClubFem must be at least 21 and this must be verified.
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Q. How should I conduct myself at a ClubFem party?
A. This is a real concern among new members. The answer is quite simple. At the beginning, most ClubFem parties look very much like straight or "vanilla" parties. The same kind of behavior one would expect at a straight party could be considered at ClubFem. No drunkenness, loud and obnoxious talking, inviting oneself into others conversations without their permission, and slaves addressing Mistresses with the utmost respect.
When the protocol part of the party begins it will be obvious. Slaves are expected to all have collars on and kneeling quietly. The Mistresses should follow commonly accepted social practices. Even though ClubFem is about Women being dominant, new Mistresses often feel more comfortable being less obvious and often are quiet and observe the activities before taking part in them. New Mistresses can sometimes learn by watching a more experienced Domme and this may take place over one or several parties.
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Q. What is the proper attire at parties?
A. Dominant attire for Females may include leather, latex, vinyl, modest lingerie and/or black clothing.
Males may appear semi-nude or nude at ClubFEM parties. Other appropriate fetish or cross-dressed outfits are also allowed.
A leash, wrist and ankle cuffs are optional. Boxer shorts and men's briefs are not considered appropriate attire under any circumstances.
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Q. What sets ClubFem apart from other fetish groups?
A. The primary difference is obvious --- ClubFem is a FEMALE DOMINANT/male submissive group. Because of this we do not accept dominant males and submissive Females as members. At a ClubFem party there is no switching of roles and Women are in control at all times. Most other D/s groups are pansexual, with the majority of the dominant members being male and Women being in the submissive roles.
Club FEM is a relatively small group and could be compared to what it's like to be in a small town versus a large one. Members often become close friends and do many things together outside the Club parties. People get to know each other personally and become more like an extended family than casual acquaintances at a party. Some of the advantages of ClubFem are you can form closer relationships with other members if you so desire and you can learn more quickly about the roles of Mistress and slave due to ClubFem's specific nature.
